I don’t owe you sh*t!

I spent a lot of time being angry. I felt like I got cheated in life pretty badly. I just had this bitterness and jealousy that I couldn’t shake. I felt like I was owed a better life. That I had suffered enough and it was time for good things to start happening to me.

I think as I got older and started more intensive therapy I realized a lot of things. One of these things was I don’t owe anyone anything and they don’t owe me anything.

I feel like a lot of the time we get so caught up in doing everything for others. Then hold it against them when we become angry they won’t stop asking for things. When we start to feel like we are being used or when you start to feel like friends are mad because you won’t tell them everything.

I had a conversation with a guest (a different one this time) and we were talking about how angry we get when we are told what to do with money, time and food. His examples were if I have a lot of candy and you tell me, “give me one piece you have a lot”, he isn’t going to want to because it’s his and you have a bad attitude. He told me I don’t owe them my candy just because I have a lot. I probably would have given them one with out them asking because that’s how I am. However, they acted like I owed them something when I didn’t.

So many times in life we get caught up doing things for others because that’s just how we are. Which is great and makes the world a better place. It’s when it is taken advantage of and abused that we start being mad. You have to know when to say no. You have to realize when you start feeling more obligated than wanting to tell and do things for others.

My nana always says “Life isn’t fair”, that’s very true. The world doesn’t owe you anything. You don’t owe the world anything. You don’t owe your friends anything and they don’t owe you anything. When you think you are owed something you have lost perspective on life in my opinion.

I spent a lot of time thinking I had to do things for others. More importantly that I owed them every detail of my life. I felt like I had to tell them every thought and thing I did. I felt like I needed certain familial relationships just because of the label they had in my life. When I left all that go (because I don’t owe anyone anything) I felt way more alive.

The truth is that when you know you aren’t owed anything you feel a lot less cheated in life. Your intentions are more pure. The outlook becomes very different.

As always the only person you owe anything to is yourself.

With my thoughts on the internet,

RJC