to like and to love

My mom always says ” I love you, not only do I love you I like you.” She has been saying this my whole life.

Miss Rodrigo says “I love people I don’t like.”

You can like people without ever loving them and you can love people without liking them.

That family member you can’t stand but keep trying with even when you spend more time complaining than saying good things? You love them. You just don’t like them very much.

That one person you keep going back to because you love them, but you literally hate everything else they do and want more for yourself. You just can’t seem to let them go. You love them. You don’t like them very much though.

To me liking someone is infinitely more important than loving someone. Loving people gets you in tricky situations. It puts you in places you don’t like. You bend to loves will to make things work and stretch yourself thin making excuses for the things you love. hardly ever do you do things like that for something you just like. You will respect it a lot though.

When you don’t like something you just let it go.

When you like and love something, someone, anything you feel happy and light. You respect, adore, and admire. It creates euphoria. It is a sweet spot.

Chances are when you break up with someone it’s not that you don’t love them anymore (maybe you never loved them) you just don’t like something they did or you don’t like them anymore. If you did love them then you probably will always be fond of them in some way. It just wasn’t gonna work because you didn’t like them anymore.

Like is really simple and love is really complicated.

When you don’t like someone but you love them it creates bitterness and resentment within. You may start disagreeing but not voicing it, hating that you have to spend time with them, dragging your feet to be there for them. You’ll do it though. Maybe because you feel it is the right thing to do. Is it though? Is that really that fair?

Stop being around people that don’t like you! Loving and liking someone are not interchangeable! The like is how you treat what or who you love. Remember that.

Liking and loving someone are completely different. The love will always make you stay because we are conditioned to think it means more. I simply do not think that’s true. I think it can even be proven the like is more important.

Choose people that like and love you. Be a person that likes and loves. Do both. Do like without love but love without like is a painful place to be.

With my thoughts on the internet,

RJC